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A wise man once said that if you watched every Nicolas Cage film in existence, your face will melt and be replaced with a flaming Ghost Rider skull. I’m putting this wise fellows words to the ..

robynstone:

Being a girlfriend is not just about being beautiful and attractive for your guy. It’s not just about letting him chase you, letting him do sweet things every time you’re mad at him and not just receiving flowers and gifts during your anniversaries. It’s not about doing those girly things just to get his attention and not just about feeling mighty every time he did everything you want. It’s also being an emotional partner where you support him in every opportunity that he takes, you appreciate everything that he does for you and you thank him for doing it, you remind him on the things he must do and what he must not. Just because you know that you can always keep him on his feet, doesn’t mean you can manipulate him. You understand him not just as a partner but as an individual too. you help him in every way showing him, that in a relationship, there’s no “I” or “you”, there’s only “we” and “us”. You know also that a man has their ego, and even when it become a little irritating sometimes, you still understand that it’s a part of his nature. A girlfriend is not just a term, it also has responsibilities that every girl must know. You’re a friend, a sister, a second mum a teacher, and a best friend.

Robs, maybe you didn’t mean it like this, but I’m going to have to write this for the good of you and everyone else:

1. You are not beautiful for your partner, you are beautiful because you as a person, just are. You deserve to be that way with or without someone, they don’t validate your beauty, and your attractiveness isn’t just for him - it’s for you, because it’s yours.

2. And no, you’re right, it should never be about letting him do anything to you, least of all ‘chase’ you like a helpless deer. You’re not prey, and you’re not subject to any gender roles at all, go ahead and reverse them.

3. You don’t have to follow the rulebook of ‘perfection’. Some people are very independent, and and most independence is good, a person should know what they ‘must and musnt do’ or needs to learn for themselves - you’re not a parent, or a sister (ew) And you most certainly don’t have to squeeze yourself into a set of standards, how can you be all those things? You just can’t, definitely not all the time. A big part of a relationship is loving someone for who they truly and exactly are, flaws included.

4. There’s only a ‘we’ and an ‘us’? There’s a YOU and a HIM, with different needs and moods and strengths and weaknesses and portion sizes, working well together, not seeping into one person :’) YOU are still worth something without him.

5. “A man has their ego” Are you kidding me? EVERYONE has an ego, everyone is irritating, it’s not a man thing it is a person thing and everyone is responsible for their own actions under it.

6. Responsibilities that every girl must know? Sounding far too much like the good housewife manual from the 1940’s. Every couple is different, every person needs different kinds of support, you are not a dutiful, subordinate from the past. And, if you’re the kind of person that treats a boyfriend badly, chances are you need to change your attitude to everyone as a whole, not as a girlfriend; you are actually a whole person.

I fucking love my boyfriend, and he absolutely loves me, and that’s enough. That’s enough for us to value eachother immensely, so we are both always positive influences in eachothers lives. We do all sorts of things for eachother, and we also make a ton of mistakes, and none of those will be the same as other people, yet we’re still fucking perfect, because we wouldn’t give eachother up for the world. So no, don’t follow this rulebook, if you’re with the right person, you’ll treat them well because you want to, and not because its some sort of womanly responsibility or duty from the age of patriarchy.